Konseling Islam dengan Teknik Tazkiyatun Nafs untuk Mengurangi Problematika dalam Hubungan Long Distance Marriage (LDM): Penelitian di KUA Limbangan Kabupaten Garut: Penelitian

Nunik Nurhozanah; Zamzam Siti Nurjamilah; Tita Tristiyani Eka Wardhani; Fatimah Haiatul Maknun Al Jamilah; Via Amalia; Isep Zaenal Arifin

doi:10.31004/jerkin.v4i4.6876

Authors

Nunik Nurhozanah UIN Sunan Gunung Djati Bandung
Zamzam Siti Nurjamilah UIN Sunan Gunung Djati Bandung
Tita Tristiyani Eka Wardhani UIN Sunan Gunung Djati Bandung
Fatimah Haiatul Maknun Al Jamilah UIN Sunan Gunung Djati Bandung
Via Amalia UIN Sunan Gunung Djati Bandung
Isep Zaenal Arifin UIN Sunan Gunung Djati Bandung

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.31004/jerkin.v4i4.6876

Keywords:

Long Distance Marriage (LDM), Konseling Islam, Tazkiyatun Nafs, Komunikasi Pasangan, Ketahanan Keluarga Muslim

Abstract

Long Distance Marriage (LDM) merupakan fenomena keluarga modern yang semakin banyak ditemukan seiring meningkatnya mobilitas sosial, tuntutan pekerjaan, pendidikan, dan faktor ekonomi. Kondisi ini mengharuskan pasangan suami istri menjalani kehidupan rumah tangga secara terpisah dalam jangka waktu tertentu, sehingga menghadirkan tantangan dalam menjaga komunikasi, kepercayaan, keintiman emosional, serta pelaksanaan peran keluarga. Maka diperlukan sebuah penelitian yang bertujuan untuk mendeskripsikan problematika pasangan LDM, menganalisis penerapan teknik tazkiyatun nafs dalam konseling Islam, serta proses konseling keluarga di KUA Limbangan Kabupaten Garut. Penelitian menggunakan teori konseling Islam dan tazkiyatun nafs yang meliputi muhasabah, dzikir, muraqabah, dan taubat. Metode yang digunakan adalah penelitian lapangan dengan pendekatan kualitatif deskriptif melalui wawancara, observasi, dan dokumentasi terhadap dua penyuluh agama, satu konselor KUA/BP4, dan delapan pasangan LDM. Sehingga hasil penelitian menunjukkan bahwa penerapan teknik tazkiyatun nafs mampu meningkatkan pengendalian emosi, mengurangi prasangka, memperkuat kepercayaan, dan memperbaiki komunikasi pasangan.

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